Christmas Cookies

When it comes to Christmas, we tend to think of Santa, trees, elves, and toys.  Let's not forget about all the goodies. You have fruitcake, candy canes, buckeyes, hard Christmas candy and of course cookies. I don't know about you but the cookies are my favorite, especially the homemade decorated ones.

For the last few years, my kids and I have been making candy and baking cookies. We have come to really like the decorating part. Each person gathers around the table and puts their artistic selves to work. I must say we sometimes amaze ourselves with the outcome. I do believe we get better every year.

My husband has decided that he is the ultimate cookie taster. Although you can't go to wrong with store bought dough. I do however make the icing from scratch. Either way, we try to accommodate him by accidentally messing a few up so he can taste them. It makes him happy and the kids are happy to oblige.

After our Christmas making/baking is finished, we neatly pack and distribute them to friends and family. This is our way of saying Merry Christmas from our house to yours.

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Making Memories

Children are very fragile human beings. It is up to their parents to see that they have what they need. You know make sure their fed, clothed, and taught. However, it is also imperative to give them happy memories.

It's my belief that children benefit better when they have a good strong family that supports them and loves them. Therefore, making memories to last a lifetime will inspire them to grow with love and passion. They will truly grow up understanding what family is about.

It's truly a blessing in today's world to have a family.  To have people around you that love and care about you.  People that can be there for you no matter what life throws at you.  Parents have the responsibility to make this happen for their children.

Make happy memories with your kids. Show them life can be more than hardship and turmoil.  Especially show them love. These things are important not only for their future but their children's future.

When You Care to Much

There's nothing wrong with caring for others but when it starts to effect your personal happiness there's a problem.

 I naturally expect people to care for one another but unfortunately it doesn't always happen that way. In my personal experience I have learned that others only care about themselves. They have a personal agenda all the time. If it's not about them then they have no time for anything. It's very sad.

I would hate to say that we care to much. Is there such a thing? I think so. I think it's possible to care about others more than yourself. This poses a problem for that individual. Their very own happiness is at stake. They feel trapped in a world of feeling used instead of being helpful or loved.

Why can't people just appreciate what you do or how you feel? What a sad world we live in when you feel like you care to much.

Best Friends

Friendship.  That word alone says so much.

It's not only an amazing word, but an asset.  Something as valuable as a friendship should never be taken for granted on any levels, instead it should be cherished.  It's truly hard to find someone who you can fully trust not only with your heart and soul but your life as well.  Someone that will be there for you through thick and thin.  Someone to tell your secrets to, to confide your worries to, and to give you the best advice.

Many friendships start out as young children, they grow and blossom over the years.  Many start as we are older and understand our needs more.  Very few friendships can endure a lifetime.  As we grow older and our lives begin to change, so do our friends. As our lives take different paths, our friends do also, making hard to sustain a healthy relationship with each other.

Friendship is one thing but having a best friend is something entirely different.  This is a person whom is more like family, a person to share your inner self with, a person that will keep you rounded and give the utmost attention when needed.  A best friend is not taken lightly, one must earn that right.  It's a relationship built on trust, not acquaintance.  It doesn't matter where you come from or who you know that qualifies someone as a best friend.  It's having the other person's best interest at heart, sharing the same feelings for one another, and never having to say it.

Best friends and friendships are like rare gems, when you find them, polish them, nurture them, and keep them safe.  Life is too short to spend it alone, so I urge you to get out there and find yours.

Community Generousity

So this church came to my apartments to help with thanksgiving dinner, Suzanne White Roberts, the boys and I walked over to the community center, there was singing and it was a really cool little set up. I got a 16lb turkey, stuffing, corn, green beans, mashed potatoes and a red velvet cake mix with butter cream icing. Also, they did a raffle and I won a $15 gift card to Frischs. Feeling pretty blessed today. I think the boys and I may be going to church in the morning. :)

What a great thing communities do for their own. I was there to witness the testimony of God, grace, and humanity.

I have never been a part of something like this before. It was wonderful to see people go out of their way, that don't have to, to make sure others have a wonderful holiday. Just seeing this makes my Thanksgiving more meaningful.  I am so thankful for these kind people for seeing that people in need have a wonderful dinner.

The young lady that shared this story to social media is a recovering addict.  I have seen her go from deaths door to tears of graciousness in a record amount of time.  She may not be rich in monetary means but she is rich with the blessings God has in store for her.  She has turned her life around, got custody of her two beautiful boys back and works a full time job.  She doesn't own a car, when need be she will walk those boys to daycare,(where she has to cut through the woods on a trail due to location and no sidewalks), so she can catch a bus to get to work.  If that isn't determination, I don't know what is. I am proud to call her my daughter. So to see people come and give her hope is something I am truly thankful for.

I know we would like to believe that poverty in our great nation doesn't exist, but it does.  Please keep this in mind, if there is anything you can do for anyone, please do.  You will be truly rewarded in ways you can't imagine.

Butting Heads

What is it about our children?  Seems like the older they get the more you butt heads.  They think they are always right and find anyway possible to try to prove you wrong on all counts.

Little do they know, they did not create the rules to life.  They like to think they did but the joke is on them. They are not the first to break those rules either.  Kids have been doing whatever they can get by with for generations.  They think that if they sneak and do something without getting caught they have won the battle. Trouble is, there is no battle.

The only victory is that they see they are accountable for everything they do.  Life is all about consequences, paying the price for what is ultimately right. Unfortunately, not all kids understand this. They aren't taught that.  In today's society, there are no consequences.  How terrible is that?  Kids running rampant until they are forced to grow up.

Bad thing, where does that leave their children? Their future?  I pray everyday that all the head butting I have done over the years pays off and my children understand that life is what you make it.  Not what you can get by with.

Christmas Lights

The Christmas lights

With their beautiful glare

So bold and bright

They fill the air

What can I say

Red and green

They take your breath away

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

With their festive scene

The children stop to stare

While the adults look on amazed

As they emit their flare

And leave everyone dazed

The Christmas lights

Come in different colors

Even in whites

To please our mothers

Beauty the are

To all those around

You can see them afar

Even from the ground

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is a time to get together with your loved ones (friends and family) and give thanks.

Be thankful for all the blessings God has created for you. Don't take for granted that your friends and family will always be there. Take the opportunity while you have it to tell them how much they mean to you.

Also be thankful for the "little things" like hugs, smiles, and "thank yous". They don't come around very often either. People get to busy to say or do these things.

Be thankful for what you have. Many people don't have beds, homes, cars, or family. It's extremely nice to be able to lie in a comfy bed at night instead of a bench somewhere.

Please take Thanksgiving and tell all those you care about how thankful you are to have them.

Daily Prompt: Second Thoughts

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I've tried to write this twice
So I guess I should take my own advice
If it's that hard to choose
You just might lose

There's always another choice
So use your best voice
To decide what is best
And forget about the rest

Nothing in life comes with ease
So pick whatever you please
It's up to you to elect
Or whether you reject

This is what I know
Never just go with the flow
Cause it's a very sore sight
When it comes back to bite

Things that I find Irksome

Things that bother me most
Are things like burnt toast
And peanut butter without jelly
to fill my belly

Teens that are rude
Or even crude
Kids that don't mind
Who need a swat on the behind

Clean laundry all over the floor
Makes me refuse to do more
Dirty dishes all over the house
Enough to attract a mouse

People that turn you into a spy
Cause all they know how to do is lie
They turn you into a sleuth
Just to find the truth

I could go on and on you see
of things that irk me
But you probably don't have all day
To hear what I have to say

Future Possibilites

As a young child you play pretend.  In pretend land you can be anyone or anything you want to be.  That's the fun of it all.  Nothing is there to stand in your way, life realities simply don't exist.

From the time you can remember people were always asking you, "What do you wanna be when you grow up?".  Of course your answers probably changed with time.  Unless you absolutely were born knowing exactly what you wanted to do or become.  That's not the case for most people unfortunately.  The struggle is real. What do I want to do?  Where do I see myself in 20 years?  Answers are sometimes hard to come by.  I mean after all the possibilities are endless.

Hell, in pretend land you could be the plane, not the pilot.  Everything seems so simple when we are young and full of imagination. But the reality is, you can't be a plane so what are you going to do. The joy of being little and pretending is that you can start to explore what interests you and hopefully help you answer these questions.

Never stop a child from playing or pretending. It's molding their future, their minds, and their ability to make decisions.  Decisions that one day may change their lives.

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Quiz Time

It's almost time for the Christmas tree to go up.  Every year I do a different theme to the tree.  Last year was teddy bear.  WHAT'S THE THEME GONNA BE THIS YEAR?????

I'm depending on you guys to help me decide.

1. Give me a theme


2. Green or white tree


3. Colored or clear lights

I officially put my tree up the day after Thanksgiving.  Let's see what you come up with.

Overwhelmed

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Life can be really hard sometimes, never knowing which way to turn. So many things going on at the same time. You gotta do this and that, and it just never seems to end.  Why can't things be simple?  Why do other people feel the need to bombard you with their lives and problems? Like you don't have enough of your own to deal with.

It's funny because when you are young, everything seemed so easy. I'm sure that's because your parents were to busy being overwhelmed. Then again, life seemed simpler back then. Things have changed a lot over the years. Life is so fast paced and nobody stops to breathe.

Wouldn't it be nice if people showed some respect? Now days, that just doesn't happen. They don't care about you or what's happening in your life, as long as you are doing for them. There is no such thing as inconvenience either. To hell with what you got going on, you aren't important. Their needs are far more greater.  I mean, come on now, can't you just stop your life?  Afterall, your life is meaningless compared to theirs.

You know what? All those "needy" people who can't seem to get how important you are, the ones overwhelming you, seem to forget......they need YOU! Funny huh? They take you for granted and use you up like a roll of toilet paper. They never stop to realize without you, they are lost. Where would they be without you?

It's really ashame the way people treat each other. I can only hope and pray that they find themselves before they get overwhelmed by someone else. But karma has a way of coming back. Then and only then, will they see the light.

Themed Parties

I always enjoy going to parties. It's a time to simply get together with friends or loved ones and have a good time. It's always enjoyable to get to catch up and see how everyone has been.

What's even better is a party with a theme. The cool decorations and food are the best. It adds a special effect to the entire venue when you see how good everything looks and comes together.

I'm talking from experience when I say it's a lot of hard work and very time consuming. Nonetheless, it's always worth it when it all works out. Not to mention when you are complimented on how well everything looks. It's rather quite uplifting to your soul.

I especially love when the kids see it. They get so excited. The happiest kid makes the happiest party planner. Smiles all around. Those are the best EVER!

So next time you plan a party, think about a theme your little one is interestd in and go for it!  It is so totally worth it. You just might be rewarded with a special extra hug😀.

Lonely

How is it possible to live in a world full of people and yet be lonely? Better yet, a house full? I wish I could by all means answer these questions.

I do, however, have an opinion. I think the answer lies within us. We must first love ourselves and be confident enough not to let anyone make us feel like we aren't worthy enough. Then maybe we could seek the people who would treat us better.

It's one thing to be lonely when you are truly alone but entirely another when you are surrounded. I would much rather be lonely by myself. At least you have a good reason why you feel this way. But to be surrounded by people that could care less is a bit frightening. It would almost be like a deaf person in this world and not a soul knows how to communicate with you. Total silence.

Lonliness is a hard state when all you want is to feel like the people around you truly care about your feelings, thoughts, and well being. To have some respect for you as a person would be nice.

I sincerely hope that if you're feeling lonely it's because you chose to be alone rather than someone forcing it upon you. If not, please find the courage and confidence to find better surroundings for your peace of mind.

Team Spirit

As you know, millions of people love sports. I, however, am not that big of a sports fanatic but I do love to show some team spirit every now and then. There’s something about dressing in your teams logo and cheering them on, especially if it’s a huge game. The adrenaline rush it gives is something quite unique for sports lovers.

There is also the expense of it all, from hats, jackets, jerseys, tickets, etc., it can be costly.  However, you do all you can to support your team and hope that they give back as well.  There is nothing like showing all that spirit and your team just doesn't quite come through.  You just have to remember though, it is just a game. Whether it be soccer, football, baseball, or any other sport.

Life is just like sports, you keep going no matter what the outcome is because you have spirit. It doesn't matter that the ref didn't make the call you wanted or they lost, the team had to keep going.  Maybe they will do better next time. There is also a next time, maybe different players but still the same game.  Life just keeps going, maybe not the way you intended it to but you have to keep up the spirit and move on.

Time's Ticking

I look around me sometimes and I wonder where the time has gone. Seems like yesterday that I was graduating high school and getting my license. Not to mention wandering what I was going to do with my life.

I'm not sure if life just got away from me or I got away from life. My life sure never turned out like I imagined it would. Actually, it turned out the total opposite of what I had in mind. For instance, I had no desire for marriage or children. Well turns out I am married with four children. I also was never a dog person. Yep you guessed it, I have had several of those too.  Crazy huh?

Now here I sit watching time fastly go by and wondering where the next years will take me. Funny thing is, I'm tired and not sure where I want to be.  Life hasn't been exactly kind at times. It's definitely been exhausting.

My mother always told me the older you get the faster it goes. Boy was she right. Perhaps my last years will bring me much peace and joy.  As for now, I'll accept my time with my family and friends and hope it slows down just a little bit.

Compelled to Write

I absolutely love writing my blogs.  The only problem with it, I feel compelled every chance I get to create a new and interesting one. The need is in my brain, like I need to tell a story or share something all the time. I just don't want to pester or bother people with my everyday thoughts.

Unfortunately, I can't help myself. I have been known to post a lot of things of Facebook.  Some have even said, "She posts all the time!".  I never claimed if you added me as a friend I would keep posting to a minimum, so why should I keep my blogs that way.  Blogging is like a release for me.  I consider it a gift.

I love to let the world know that they are not alone in whatever it is that they are going through. I want people to see that other people deal with some of the same issues and happiness as they do.  To share is to care, in my opinion.  Let's face it together, so if I write something that I'm going through and you read it, you see I'm just as human as you are.

Again, I love to write and could do it all day.  My world is full of stories, laughter, tears, and heartache just like everyone else's.  Writing makes me happy in a way therapy could probably never touch.  So please don't feel burdened by my words, for they are simply a way of expressing my life as I see it.

Never To Old

No one is ever to old to have their day brightened by someone or something, even if it's a simple stuffed animal.  Just think, you are feeling down or lonely and someone gives you a gift out of the blue.  Doesn't it make you feel better? Doesn't it make the day seem so much brighter?  Of course it does!

Make someones day every once in a while.  Whether it's a single flower or a whole dozen. It doesn't matter because just one simple gesture can mean so much to someone.  Whether it be a friend, co-worker, or spouse just remember that some days are harder than others.  So if you can make just one person smile or feel better, why not do it.

A few years ago, I was having an extremely bad week. Everything was just going wrong.  I went to the grocery store and when I got home I noticed a huge beautiful plant sitting on my deck.  It took me by surprise to say the least.  I remember how pretty the color of the flowers were.  Immediately, I knew who had brought them.  It was a very close friend of mine.  He always knew how to make me smile.  I hadn't even talked to him that day, so he didn't know how bad my day was. Just seeing them, oh my, it brings tears to my eyes as I write this because he has since passed.  I miss him very much.  But something so simple as a plant, made my day.

Please be kind to each other.  One day someone might just make your day.  It doesn't take much, just something simple, perhaps even just a smile.

Daily Prompt: Waiting

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I'm still waiting

On what, I don't know

For something good

For respect

For major changes

For enthusiasm

For self-confidence

For self-love

For true happiness

For attention

On what, I don't know

I'm still waiting

Baby's First

We always anticipate all the firsts our baby will have. Some of them are easier to deal with than others. For some teething is either very painful or comes without problems at all. Then there's sitting up, first steps, and so on. All which we welcome with open arms.

Then there's those first we just don't anticipate, leaving them. There's nothing worse than having to leave your child in the hands of total strangers. I say strangers because we don't truly know the people at daycare or school. We like to think we pick the appropriate ones to care for our little ones. The  first day of daycare/school has approached and that dreaded saying bye has come. As you leave your child for the first time, he cries and although you want to, you must be strong. You walk very quickly to your car hoping to hold it in before you totally lose it. Now you have to pull yourself together before you enter your job. Leaving a long day of fear, panic, and sheer agony. Picking up your little one can't come quick enough.

I know it's hard. I had to as a single mother years ago. Now as a grandmother, I had to watch my daughter do the same. I must say, I didn't want them to go, I actually cried. It's taking every ounce of me not to call and check on him every ten minutes. I know we have to do what we have to do but boy is it hard!

So for every first we must endure, nothing prepares us for most. Just remember we have all had to do it. We will survive them. Also whats hard for you might not be as bad for them. Hang in there my new parent friends, it will all be ok.

The Dreaded "Shots"

As many of you know, vaccines are required for your children. Let's be honest, who really wants to see their children getting those awful needles stuck in them? I know I didn't. I don't know who it makes feel worse, the child or the parent. Then again, it always depends on the nurse giving them. We have had some pretty awful nurses and some really good ones. I hated the ones who would come in like they were on a mission to see who could jab the hardest and fastest. It almost made you want to hold her down. Just saying.

Well, on that note, I have three grandsons. All of which got shots one day apart. Needless to say, maw maw's house was full of fever and grumpiness. God love them. It really makes for a long day when one doesn't feel good, not alone two. The two year old and the two month old were the two lucky ones, if that's what you want to call it, to get the side effects. Luckily, the one year old did rather well. He was still his old chipper self.

As all parents, grandparents, and caregivers know, these poor innocent children have no idea what's coming when they get to the doctors office. It's a shame we can't take it for them. We know it's for their own good but we still want to avoid anything that's going to make them feel bad. Even if it's helping in the long run.

Family Dinner

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We all know the holidays are coming, which is supposed to bring cheer, good will, and of course family get together. Tis the season!!! I do believe to be jolly is what follows that saying but let’s be real, it isn’t always so.

There’s nothing worse than sitting down to a beautifully prepared meal and an argument breaks out. You are sitting there with the best china, good friends, and family when all of a sudden, your sibling wants to fight. REALLY???? Why can’t you just have a nice meal? Your poor mother is distraught. Why wouldn’t she be? After all, she’s been preparing for days to make sure everything was perfect.

After about ten minutes, words have been said, feelings have been hurt, and someone is crying. And for what? No doubt it was over something so silly and so immature that it could’ve been avoided to begin with. All because of jealousy I’m sure. This is one of the main problems with family. One thinks the other has or gets more than they do. It’s just not fair. Well they have all the attention now.

I really hope the holidays bring you peace and joy. With nothing but love and compliments from each other. Don’t argue. It’s just a waste of time and nobody benefits from it. If anything, the only benefit is a bad time.

Depression

 

 

 

 

I can’t explain this feeling I have. It’s a feeling of helplessness and worthlessness, like there’s no hope left for tomorrow. My world sometimes just crumbles around me and I can’t stop it.

I pray for God to help me stop this out of control spiral my mind has taken on. I want him to save me from drowning in my own overwhelming thoughts. Like a hurricane hitting the shore and wiping away all that you worked hard to build. BAM! In an instant, all good is gone.

My tears want to come but my mind says “Don’t you dare!”. You just keep containing them because you can’t show your weakness anymore. Don’t you dare tell anyone how you are feeling. They will never understand the depth and severity of your emotions.

When will this end? How long do I have to walk around with a fake smile and pretend everything is good? Knowing all the while, I’m like a ticking time bomb. Ready to explode!

If you have ever felt this way, then you truly understand. You know that until that certain something happens that makes you snap out of it, there’s nothing you can do. You simply hope for a change, a savior, or a miracle. You just want anything to stop this whirlwind of mental terror that you can’t control.

Unfortunately, it’s exhausting. It totally sucks everything out of you. Your energy, enthusiasm, and quality of life are just not what they should or could be. I can only hope that one day my life will be as it should….peaceful.

Keeping Promises

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What is a promise? To be clear, I have defined it for you.

a declaration or assurance that one will do a particular thing or that a particular thing will happen.

Now that we are clear, let's talk about promises. How many promises have you made and how many have you kept? Let's be real, we would all like to think that all promises are made good by the person that made it. Especially if it's something we've been wanting.

Life is never really lived on promises. It's a good thing because probably over half of promises made get broken. It's ashame too. People intend to do well by someone and when time comes they can't produce whatever it was. Thus leads to broken hearts, disappointment, and anger.

The sad part is, after someone repeatedly makes you promises and breaks them, leads to distrust. That's not a good thing. You eventually begin questioning everything they say to you.  It's hard to be around someone like that not alone live with someone whom you can't depend on.

I hope that when you make a promise, it's within your means to make it happen. There's nothing better than to have someone deliver. It lifts your spirits and can sometimes make a bad day, better. Keep in mind, you wouldn't like a broken promise.

Pumpkins

Fall is in the air

Pumpkins everywhere

Candles lit inside

There's nowhere for them to hide

Some are big and tall

Sure signs that it's fall

Some are short and round

Come see what I've found

There's enough for pie

As they are stacked up high

There's even bread

At least that's what they said

One with a scary face

You just run from his place

One with a big smile

You can see for a mile

There's some for carving too

It's long overdue

It's hard to pick which one is best

You just have to look at all the rest

The Big "One"

It's so exciting when your baby finally turns one.  You get to plan a big party and invite everyone to share this wonderful moment with you.  You just can't wait to see the face of that little one as he opens up his gifts, eats his birthday cake, and sees all his family. I mean what could be more exciting....right?

Well....I bet you didn't take into consideration that he might be a little confused. After all, he really has no idea what is going on. The fact that all these people are surrounding him, taking pictures, and shoving gifts at him might be a little intimidating. The poor baby probably just wants a nap.

You, however, you are in heaven. You just know this is the best day ever! You are surrounded by all the people who love your baby as much as you do. Everyone is happy and having fun and that's all that matters. Well to you anyway because your little one could care less. He doesn't have a clue as to what in the world is going on.

As he "digs" into the cake, liking it of course, he is now covered from head to toe in icing. A picture perfect scene of a happy baby. Boy what a mess! That's one mess you actually don't mind cleaning up because he is worth it.

The gift part is just a riot. In my many years of experiencing this on any given occasion, there's nothing better than the paper or box of which the gift came in. Unfortunately, after the third gift, they have lost all interest in this whole party thing. You now have become the gift opener. Even then, he already has focused on that one thing and there is no distracting him.

About half way through the party, your little one has had enough. He's tired and cranky. It's nap time!! You now have to wind down the party without your little "star" because as far as he is concerned, you are the one enjoying this the most.  He doesn't have a clue this was all for him in the first place. Thank goodness for the world of pictures.

The Christmas Tree

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The Christmas tree is a figment of what you believe Christmas to be.  For many of us, our tree represents our own spirit of the holiday. It speaks volumes about what kind of mood we set for ourselves that time of the year.

Me, however, my tree changes year to year. It is either white or green and depending on the theme, the color of lights must coincide with the decor.  From there, we must decide what will be the right ornaments. Afterall, it has to be perfect.

A Christmas tree is something of sheer beauty, in which one can merely stare at forever. It's especially beautiful when you turn off the house lights and let the tree radiate in its own glory.  If the tinsel and lights are just right, it is truly stunning.

"I gotta ask a question"

Boy do kids learn quick! While at my daughters the other night, she was getting the kids ready for bed. As many of you know, bedtime can be a challenge in itself. Everything was going as planned until it was actually time to get in bed.



My oldest grandson is two. He is charming, very smart, and loving. He loves to get and give attention to every matter. If you say it hurts, he knows kisses make it better. He is quite the little man.



So now it's bedtime.  He is Paw Patrol everything. So of course he has to show maw maw his pillow and blankie. Let's not forget his cup.  After all the viewing, it's time to say goodnight.  As his mommy tries to get him in bed, he dead stops and says, "I gotta ask mawmaw a question." At this point, we both grin because we both know that's a definite delay. However, it happened to be the first time either of us had heard him say that before.



Isn't it funny how fast they pick up things? I would expect this from a four-year old but two!! This just goes to show I've got a very smart little guy on my hands. Oh my, the things to come. ☺

Autumn Appeal

Simply beautiful. Red, yellow, orange, and green, what a scene.

If you truly want to enjoy the beauty, take a drive down a country road.  It's such a serene sight. The cool crisp air is breathtaking. 

The leaves that have fallen give it an even more appeal. They lay on the ground under the tree as if the tree was blanketing its own roots. A sign of what's to come. The unique way nature tells us winter will soon be here. 

Guilt

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Isn't guilt a funny thing? How can some people just make you feel so bad? I for one always feel guilty for something. Mostly because I don't like to see someone hurting. I can't stand to see a person needing something more than I can give.


Telling someone "no" is very hard sometimes. No can be very hurtful to people. Especially if they are sensitive or feeling down. There are times that you, yourself just need to reevaluate your own needs for peace of mind. So therefore, you have to say no to someone. Unfortunately it winds up hurting you just as bad as them. Guilt.

There's nothing worse than seeing someone in a situation and know that you can't help them. I am not a rich person by any means. If I were maybe there would be less guilt. I could help more. I could give them what they need.  Damn it.....guilt.

Then there's those poor animals without homes. You just wished you could build a huge shelter and house them all. Feed them, love them, and show them affection is all you need to do.  We all know that it's an impossible thing to do but.......guilt wins again!

If I were just an emotionless person, it would be better. At least that's what I tell myself. I do know that my heart is to big for that scenario. My heart is huge and all I want to do is make everybody feel better. Yes, I know this is an impossible feat but I'm still going to try.

Guilt is a nasty thing. It hurts your heart and soul to the core. It causes sleepless nights, tears, and an overwhelming feeling of helplessness. So whatever you do, try not to make someone feel guilty if for some reason they can't help you at that moment. You neve truly know how someone else is feeling.

All of me

What if someone said to you, "All I have to offer is me." How would that make you feel? Is or would that be enough for you?  Does money really make the relationship work? Are looks everything? Do you really need a nice car or house to be in a relationship?

Unfortunately in today's society, money is everything. We feel in order to be appreciated or loved we must be able to offer more than ourselves.  I only wish people knew that wasn't the case.  If they did, there would a lot less lonely people.

Never be afraid to offer "me" to someone you truly care about. In the end if it was meant to be, it will be.  If not, you truly haven't lost anything. If nothing else, chalk it up as a lesson for the next real thing.

Just remember, if you can't offer 100% of you, how can you expect someone to offer the same.

In Memory of

There's nothing like the loss of a pet.  Unless you are an animal lover, you probably don't understand the grief.  Some people wonder how you could be so upset cause after all it's just an animal. So NOT true.

Many adopt their fur babies when they are very young. They bring them home, feed, cuddle, and train them. They are just like children. They steal your heart. There is nothing you wouldn't do for them.

I, myself, know all to well the grief. The pain of losing a pet. In my many years as a pet owner, there is nothing like feeling that loss. The heartbreak can be so unbearable.  All you can do is try to remember all the love you gave and all the love you got back.  There's nothing like the love they give in return. That's when you know you've done something right.

There's the memories of tail wagging and kisses when they see you after you've been gone. How about the snuggling on a cool night? The purrs of contentment? The kneading of safety? Most of all, how they comforted you as much as you did them. Always keep those fur babies in your memories. Never let the heartbreak stop you from sharing that same love with another pet.

R.I.P. Miss Genevieve.  (pictured) You will never be forgotten as long as I live. You were gentle, kind, and protective. 💖

Daily Prompt: Panic

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If there is one thing I can actually elaborate on, it's panic.  Being diagnosed with anxiety and panic disorder, along with Agoraphobia, is no fun.  The combination is merely a disaster.  For those of you who don't know what Agoraphobia is, it's the fear of leaving one's safe place.  Meaning, to venture out somewhere unknown is traumatic.

I was diagnosed with these conditions after having a hysterectomy.  The hormone changes caused a chemical imbalance and led to the most awful chain of events.  I have always known a little fear but not like this.  This is something that is so indescribable.  It is the worse feeling in the world.  You never know from day to day if you are going to be able to go the store, the doctors, or your child's school events.  It's frustrating to say the least.

I remember when it first began after surgery.  The intense fear.  Fear so real that I could not understand what was happening.  Hyperventilating, sweating, and tears were being released from my body and there was nothing I could do.  My body would literally be sick. My mind would race a hundred miles an hour.  What in the world was happening. I could not even walk out the front door.

Needless to say, after trials of medications to get this fixed, I have found a fit.  Unfortunately, I will probably be on them the rest of my life.  It has caused severe depression, anxiety, and of course panic in everyday life.  Traveling, going shopping, and any event really has become an issue.  I, however, am strong. I am learning to cope with the meds and trying to conquer these fears.  I am hoping someday to overcome this madness and return to life as I once knew it.

It's been six years now.  I am able to go more places and learn to cope a little better in public.  Maybe, just maybe, I am finally getting some life back.

Daily Prompt: Stylish

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Isn't it funny how some people think what they wear is stylish?  Yet others are thinking, no way!  Style of course is up to the individual's liking.  Not everyone has the same taste and that is what makes it so diverse.

It would, however, be nice if most styles were for all body sizes and shapes. There's nothing worse than someone who doesn't have the "profile" for a specific type of style but chooses to wear it anyway.  Let's talk leggings.  Not stylish at all!!!  Ninety percent of women should not wear those.

I do think that there are some very stylish people in the world.  So when they wear their style in good taste, in makes them even more attractive.  There's just nothing like seeing someone that looks good compared to someone you just can't even fathom.

Silence

Listen to the world around you.  All the noise of everyday life can be so annoyingly loud.  Actually, you probably didn't really hear it.  We are so in tuned with everyday life that we've become immune to the noise.

Think about this:  We wake up to an alarm clock. Immediately turn on the news so we can hear the weather and traffic report.  Then it's time to wake the kids (if you have them) and make breakfast and get them ready to go.  Jump into the car and off you go.  The kids are talking, the radio is blaring, and the car is running.  Next, you are at work.  People are either talking or you can hear soft music in the background.  Lunch time, you go to the nearest café, where there is idle chitchat and the clinging of dishes, and of course more music.  If that isn't enough, it's time to go pick up the kids, go to the store, make dinner, and watch your nightly tv shows.  In the meantime, the kids are playing, someone's mowing, and the dog is barking.  Phew, it's finally time for bed. So there you have it, the world around you.

Silence, you say?  Just a mere touch of silence can be so rewarding.  It can really do a body good.  It can be the most calming remedy for the soul.  Everyone needs a little time to gather their thoughts and relax.  So I highly recommend that even if it's five minutes, take the opportunity to enjoy it.

Never Give Up

Sometimes we underestimate ourselves when it comes to our own potential. What we are truly capable of doing or becoming.  I think in everyone we see around us, we sometimes wish we could be as ambitious as they are.  Guess what?  You can be!  All it takes is willpower.  Some things may come easy and some may be the most difficult ever.  The key is to never give up.  To learn what is inside you, what makes you truly who you are.

As many of you know, we are not going to succeed at everything we do. That's ok, at least you tried.  You got to experience something otherwise you may not have ever done.  Most people in their life time will not be able to say that.  The reason being, they simply didn't try. How unfortunate for them.  They never knew what could have been different in their lives.

Basically it boils down to this,  never be afraid to try something new.  Even if you fail, you succeeded. It's really a win-win situation.

Somewhere Out There

I can only imagine from my small house in Kentucky, that right now someone is getting married, having a party, or perhaps the not so nice thing to do such as a funeral or a boring meeting.  So many lives out there and so many different people.  Different places to see, eat, and sleep.  You name it, it's a big world full of everything.  I guess that's why we are all so curious all the time.  Why we seem to never be satisfied with what's here.

Curiosity, it's a funny thing.  They say it killed the cat, yet satisfaction brought it back.  Is need for satisfaction so strong that we would risk our very soul to get it?  I'm guessing the percentage of that is very high.  Unfortunately, so many people have a strong desire to meet within themselves that they forget just how good their lives really are.  They tend to forget about the obvious good things they already have.  Love, family, and friendship are often forgotten about when the desire is to strong.  So many times, people wind of hurting themselves the most. It's a very sad thing when that happens.  Not just for them but the ones they have hurt in the process.

Wait!!   What about satisfaction?  Sometimes things work out really well for people who don't let anything stop them.  After all, isn't that how people become successful, happy, and peaceful within themselves?  Look at this way, if they hadn't taken the chance, they might be miserable.  They may not be able to cope with how their life was turning out.  They may feel like there is truly something missing in their lives.  Again, making them ask the question, "What else is out there?"

I guess the ultimate decision to find out is yours. I mean, somewhere out there just may have the answers your seeking. Or does it?  The only way to find out if the grass is greener or just a figment of imagination is to figure out what truly drives you. I just hope that one day everyone, everywhere will have peace, love, and friendship.  Remember, it's your life.   Make the most of every moment.

Life Lessons

What exactly are life lessons? That's easy to answer. Everybody in existence has or have had hard times, good times, sad times and unexplained events in their lives. From these experiences, we take away different views from those outcomes. This my friend is a life lesson. When you can take a whole experience and learn something from it.

What are some life lessons you have had and what did you take away from it? It's not always easy to admit some of them. Some on the other hand you can't wait to share. Just think for a minute, try to recall some of yours. Always remember to share, someone may be of help or just friendly advice.

Welcome

Welcome everyone. I'm so very excited to get my new blog started on my very own site. I hope everyone will join me as we walk through life together. One step at a time.